This picture reminds me of that conversation I had with one of my coworkers. I was in my third trimester then and trying to mentally prepare myself for childbirth. I remember saying “I don’t know how so many women do it over and over again;” to which he said, from what he heard women tend to forget about the pain. Women do remember that pregnancy is miserable and labour and delivery (L&D) is painful, but they tend to forget the intensity of the pain.
Now that I’ve given birth, I think there’s some truth to that. When my husband’s family visited us to see my baby shortly after I gave birth, I told his cousin “I think I’m one and done but not because of my labour but because of how difficult postpartum is.” I said I can take the pain of L&D but not the exhaustion, sleep deprivation and the challenges of postpartum recovery. This surprised my husband because he saw that I was in so much pain during L&D, and he was sure that I would not want to go through that all over again.
I don’t think there’s any scientific evidence to prove that women do forget the pain of L&D although I can’t claim this with certainty — I don’t have a science background and I don’t read pregnancy/medical journals a lot.
But I read something about the “halo effect” which is claimed to be responsible for this tendency to forget L&D pain. It’s that joy, love and excitement a woman feels once her baby is placed on her chest. It’s that moment of “finally it’s over” when she’s holding her baby near her heart. It’s people around her saying “it‘s all worth it because look at your adorable baby.” It’s that moment. And it trumps any pain and exhaustion that she endured for however long just to give birth to her baby. 💖
What’s your take? Is there truth to the halo effect? Leave a reply below. ☺️